Chanting a loved one’s final goodbye.

My friend Roger lost his older brother Gary recently.  It was sudden — Gary didn’t feel good, went into the hospital, was released, and died within two weeks’ time. Nobody knew, but perhaps Gary himself. When Gary’s family got the word he was so ill on that final night, they rushed to his side and…

Devoted daughter.

I don’t know Louise’s mother, but I have seen how devoted her daughter has been during her prolonged demise. Because I believe in the importance of condolence cards — even when I don’t know the person who passed — I hastened to buy one for Louise, and hope it makes her feel a tiny bit…

When a new friend loses a father…

I didn’t know my friend’s father but I did know that he flew across the country often to be with him — and his father was ins his late 90’s, hovering on 100. That is a remarkable achievement. It is often due in some small part to a caring family network, to children who check in often,…

The final visit.

Sometimes we have an instinct that we have to get to see someone before it’s too late.  Lesley knew she had to fly cross country this summer, and she took valuable vacation days to get to see her boyfriend’s elderly and ailing father.  It was good she did.  Her friend died this week, and while…

Siamese sadness.

What does one say to a person who’s loved their cat… nursed it for years … and finally has to bid it a sad goodbye? Condolence letters are hard enough to write. A condolence letter for an animal is even more difficult. I tried to imagine what it must have felt like for Gloria S….

“Rockford Files” producer misses James Garner.

There are a few quality people in life. Charles Johnson, a television producer who’s got major credits, is one of those people. So is James Garner, I’m told.  When the actor recently passed away, I wrote Charles a condolence card, telling him how sad I was that he had lost his dear friend. Today I…

A happy birthday card.

I’m very happy I got to spent Christmas with Joel — she was a December 25th baby, and in the Schmidt family it was always morning was devoted to Joel’s birthday then Xmas came later. I got her a card this year that lit up and sang — and she loved it. Little did I know … that would…